In legalese putting in an ‘appearance’ doesn’t mean going to court yourself, it just means at the least sending in a signed document. It’s quite amusing to read through court papers for the probate I am in charge of and the criminal way in which certain people act and the machinations they go through to convince themselves they are the aggrieved party and saints. It would be so good to have a mirror that reflected your personality flaws back to you, we would all look very different to how we fool ourselves we look.